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  • This! I'm so tired of the suggestion that money doesn't buy happiness It's true that money won't automatically solve all your problems, and it can in fact bring new ones, but money gives you freedom, power and choices It can enable you to quit a job that makes you miserable, even though you don't have another one to go to. You'll take a month off to weigh up your options before eventually landing your dream job. The best part? It's much better pay than the one before and you no longer have to report to a micro-managing arsehole It can give you the means to leave an unhappy relationship without worrying about the impact the breakup will have on your finances. You end the relationship on Friday and spend the weekend alone in a cute AirBnB, scrolling through your phone until you line up a number of flat viewings over the next few days. The rent is more than what you're used to but you know you'll be ok It allows you to invest in education and personal growth without constantly worrying about whether your time should be spent doing something that makes immediate cash It gives you opportunities to pursue your passions. You can take karate lessons, learn Spanish, and go on regular holidays It can be the difference between supermarket brand beans on toast 7 nights a week and devouring a Domino's on Fridays, sushi on Saturdays and tapas on Sundays If you're single and unhappy about it, money allows you to get out there and devote time and energy to finding that special someone. You can buy a gorgeous dress, treat yourself to some new makeup, and knock cocktails back until you bundle yourself into an Uber at 1am. If it didn't go as well as you'd hoped, you'll just go on another first date a few days later If you have kids, money can be the difference between letting your kid go on a school trip to a foreign country, and a debt-free Christmas So get outttta here next time you pretend money doesn't have a profound impact on the average person's happiness and wellbeing
  • "The day you were born, the world had a choice about what to teach you about your body. It could have taught you to live with confidence and joy inside your body. It could have taught you that your body and your sexuality are beautiful gifts. But instead, the world taught you to feel critical of and dissatisfied with your sexuality and your body. You were taught to value and expect something from your sexuality that does not match what your sexuality actually is. You were told a story about what would happen in your sexual life, and that story was false. You were lied to. I am pissed, on your behalf, at the world for that lie. And I’m working to create a world that doesn’t lie to women about their bodies anymore" If you fancy buying a lifechanging gift for yourself this Christmas, I highly recommend Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are @enagoski ♥️💦👉🍑😳😮😩😣😖😊💤
  • Family estrangement is a hot topic of conversation over on Twitter today, after GMB inexplicably gave Meghan Markle's father, Thomas Markle, a platform to publicly plead with his daughter to let him back into her life Since Meghan has quietly made it quite clear that her father is best kept at arm's length, it really annoyed me that GMB gave him an opportunity to publicly shame his daughter and make her out to be 'controlling'. He accused her of ghosting him! Who does that to a family member you claim to love? I tweeted my frustrations and considering there's usually little more than tumbleweed in my Twitter mentions, I was amazed to see my thoughts go micro-viral. On the one hand, I was excited to see so many people supporting my argument rather than accusing me of being a vicious feminazi with a hatred of men, but on the other hand, it was eye opening to see just how many people sympathise with Meghan because they've been in her shoes too By that I mean they've experienced family estrangement - not that they've given up their career in Hollywood to marry a handsome ginger prince A couple of months ago @salihughes wrote a really thoughtful article for The Pool about family estrangement She wrote: "What doesn’t seem to have occurred to any of Meghan’s critics is the notion that she may be happier, healthier and calmer without her dad and siblings in her life. Family estrangement is, in my fairly considerable personal experience, very rarely a grudge. It’s not about punishing someone, or teaching them a lesson, or refusing to back down. And it’s certainly not about needing to win. Far from it – it is a loss so huge to everyone concerned that it feels much like a death. It’s neither flippant nor entered into lightly. More often than not, estrangement is the last resort, a painful and measured decision to remove from your daily life behaviours and people (and it’s easy to forget they really are just people, albeit with shared blood) that consistently make you feel unhappy, chaotic and upset" ♥️ Let me know if you want me to DM you the link. It's a very good read.
  • After an entire year of eating my dinner on the sofa or *lowers voice*... my bed, my kitchen FINALLY has a pair of bar stools I'm cooking Christmas dinner on Friday night, so it'll be nice to eat it at an actual table like civilised human beings 🙌
  • "He suggested I was using my grandmother’s death for attention. Again, I decided he was probably right." ⚫ A couple of days ago I finally published a Medium post (link in bio) that has been sitting in my drafts for weeks Obviously this isn't the first time I've shared a story that's personal and potentially embarrassing, but nevertheless, it was really scary to put out into the world. In the end, a few things inspired me to finally hit the big Publish button 1. Melanie Brown's book, Brutally Honest @officialmelb 2. The horrible victim blaming surrounding Grace Millane's murder 3. Megan Fox saying that she was scared to share her #MeToo stories because of people's perceptions of the 'perfect victim' Talking about this stuff is hard, but as I've found, bottling it up and staying silent isn't particularly healthy either I saw a tweet yesterday that reminded me that it's important to talk about this stuff if we're in a position to do so. @poornabell wrote: "The most important thing I've learned this year, when I've wobbled, when I've gotten doubtful is that if you can, you have to use your voice to help others who cannot. I forget how many people can't articulate their tough stuff, and how listening to other people who can, helps"
  • Counting down the days until I finish work for Christmas so I can have tons of free time to do my own thing At the absolute least, I'd like to read these three books during the festive break But then again, my attention span is so fucked that I honestly think I might have to lock my phone in the bike shed so I can get through a book without taking a break every half hour to go on social media🙈